#AUTISM MELTDOWN SWEARING HOW TO#
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A tantrum is willful behaviour in younger children and therefore can be shaped by rewarding desired behaviours, whereas a meltdown can occur across a lifespan and isn’t impacted by a rewards system. While they may look similar in external behaviour, it’s important to understand the difference between the two. I try to bring my daughter in to her room after trips, and dim the lights, and let her watch a movie, or even better, listen to music, because that seems to help.Many parents and caregivers have witnessed the fireworks of anger and emotion from a person with autism, and from the outside they look exactly like the tantrums of young children. He said that they often times will not misbehave even at a family members home, because even though they might love them, they don't feel as comfortable there as they do in their home, and often after a time away from home, sensory overload occurs, and that's why the behavior issues occur. They swear often after they pick up the words because it gives them immediate emotional relief of the current sensory issue. I asked our psychiatrist why this is, and he told me that the reason that autistic children behave differently at home and around their immediate family, is because that's where they feel the most safe to Express their emotions. She has also never had a meltdown in any other place than home either. But when she's not at home, she's able to control these behaviors, and this vocabulary. She does the exact same thing! At home, she will swear, call names, say horrible things, and be completely horrible. I have a 14 year old, high functioning autistic, sweet girl. I am hoping his obsession for minecraft will outweigh his desire to swear and be abusive to us.

#AUTISM MELTDOWN SWEARING FULL#

I am trying now to take his IPAD away for a full day now and he isn't getting it back until he can go a full day without hurting or hitting either of us. We have continuous discussions with him about his bad language and aggressive outburst, praise him always when we see good behaviour etc. He frowns at me if I get cross and am sharp with my son, because we are supposed to be these super human calm people, however sometimes it is the firm voice which gets through to my son for unacceptable behaviour.

the thing is I know I can curb my son's swearing and behaviour on my own when it is just the two of us, but not when my other half is there. We have had various conversations with a clinical psychologist about this and she always has supported my firmer stance on certain unacceptable behaviours such as physical violence.

#AUTISM MELTDOWN SWEARING HOW TO#

I don't know how to retrain my husband to stop undermining me. and also a son who is consistently disrespectful to both of us, but I have more control when other half not there. I know I have two problems, one is my other half being inconsistent and undermining me, but he just will not listen and infuriates me. This gets me angry and I lost it with my husband yesterday which means I am not setting a good role model either, but I had been bitten hard and yet I was made out to be the bad guy whilst son needs to understand that biting is wrong. I know we have different parenting styles, but things definitely get worse when other half doesn't back me up or step back. I am very strict with my son and take the IPAD away from him for two hours when he swears or is abusive, Husband tends to lecture him for a long time, which I know is too many words for our son to follows. I am not saying my son would be perfect on his own with me, but he might push it on one day of the week, but then would behave for rest of holidays as he knows my boundaries, but not dads, who he spends less time with. We have just come back from a weeks holiday and my husband always seems to make things worse by not being consistent in his discipline and our son constantly picks up on this and hopes to take sides against me his mum with his dad. This then encourages our son to be even more abusive in his language. I screamed because it hurt so much and husband comes in and tells me off for leaving my arm there to be bit. He bit me yesterday because the IPAD wasn't working. He now constantly swears at home and if ever we ask him to do something he doesn't want to do or doesn't like he says F U.etc. Most of the kids there have behaviour issues and he has learnt a lot of swear words. My son recently started a short stay school where he is doing well.

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